The calendar opens up.

The invitations roll in.

And suddenly, your “relaxing” summer feels overwhelming.

Everyone wants your time—family, friends, events, travel. But before you fill your schedule, try this:

Step 1: Identify What Matters Most

Summer doesn’t need to be full to be fulfilling. Not everyone wants a quiet season, and that’s okay. But know why you’re saying yes. Know what you’re building.

Try this: Before you plan, pause. Sit quietly for a moment. Ask: What do I want this summer to be about?

It might be deep rest.
It might be connection and adventure.
It might even be productivity—but the kind that fills you, not drains you.

Whatever it is—name it.
Let clarity guide your calendar.

Step 2: Know That Every Yes has a No

Every time you say yes to something, you’re saying no to something else.

No one has unlimited capacity.
Saying yes to every invite often means saying no to rest, reflection, or your own priorities.

Try this: When you feel pulled to accept something, ask: If I say yes to this, what am I saying no to?

Clarity often lives in that question.

Step 3: Check Your Body—Not Just Your Calendar

You may have room in your schedule.
But do you have room in your being?

When you’re asked to commit, pause.

Try this: Before you say yes, check your body.

Tight chest? Clenched jaw? Racing thoughts?
That’s a no—even if you can squeeze it in.

Spacious breath? Gentle energy? A little excitement?
That’s a yes worth exploring.

Let your body weigh in before your mouth says yes.

Final Thought: Protect What Matters

This summer, build a season you don’t need to recover from.

Say yes with clarity. Say no with confidence.
Let alignment—not urgency—lead the way.

With steadiness,
Carolyn Kubena